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Exceptions to Backbiting
There are few exceptions to backbiting, that the scholars have classified, among them …..
Oppression: If one has been harmed or one’s property has been unlawfully taken away by another, and this person goes to the ruler or judge in order to seek justice, this is not backbiting.
Changing the Munkar: If one finds a person involved in evil actions or innovations, and one is unable to correct his Munkar. It is allowed to seek the help of a more knowledgable person, even if it mean defining the Munkar of the evil-doer or innovator.
- Seeking a Fatwa (religious verdict): For example, there is a dispute between a husband and his wife, and if either of them seek the advice of a religious scholar, then this situation is exempt from backbiting.
- Warning a Muslim from evil: For example, if a fellow Muslim is going to do a business with an dishonest person or if a Muslim is unaware that the person to whom he is marrying his daughter to, is an unreligious person; then to advice and guide him is exempt from backbiting.
- Advising against innovators and sinners: If a innovator is openly involved in spreading his innovative beliefs or a sinner remorselessly declares his sin and is thus being a bad example for others; then warning others against him is allowed. But if he commits a sin secretly and as such harms just himself, to openly declare his sins is still strictly prohibitted.
The Messenger of Allaah - Sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam - said, “Do not nurse a grudge (against a Muslim) and do not outbid him for raising the price and do not nurse aversion (strong dislike) or enmity and do not enter into a transaction when others have entered into that transaction and be as fellow-brothers and servants of Allaah. A Muslim is the brother of another, he neither betrays (or deceives him), nor humiliates him, nor looks down upon him. Piety is here (and while saying so) he pointed towards his chest three times. All things of a Muslims are inviolable for his brother in faith, his blood, his wealth and his honour.”Saheeh al-Muslim (4/6219), part of the wording bing that of Sunan Abu Dawood (3/4864)He - Sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam - also said, “No (Muslim) man will desert a man who is a Muslim in a place where his respect may be violated and his honour aspered without Allaah deserting him in a place where he wishes help; and no (Muslim) man who will help a Muslim in a place where is honour may be aspered and his respect violated without Allaah helping him in a place where he wishes his help.”Sunan Abu Dawood (3/4866) and and authenticated by Sheikh al-Albani in Saheeh Jaami’ Sagheer.
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